Was in a busy establishment with other customers. I knew or was familiar with other customers, who all seemed to be there in various social groups. But I was definitely there alone. I believe it was a cigar lounge or some similar establishment as everyone was buying and smoking cigars. I was finishing a cigar at the beginning of the dream which is strange because I only smoke cannabis in my waking life, and I make a point to never tobacco. For some reason, I believe we were all at this establishment after a show. The group to the front and left of me, who I was somewhat familiar with socially, all began a new round of cigars. I approached them asking if they were about to smoke, trying to join them, and asked what flavors they bought. I wanted to fit in and join the festivities. They weren’t obviously uncomfortable with my company and did not ask me to leave, but they didn’t seem to particularly desire my company, either. The guy I was most familiar with in the group had purchased two cigars, one for now (which he clipped then lit) and one for later (which he wrapped in a plastic bag to go.) He told me the flavor was sweet vinegar. I went to the bar to speak to the woman behind it. The conversation was awkward from the beginning but I couldn’t figure out if I was being awkward or if it was the woman serving me. I asked how she was doing, and she seemed incoherent answering the basic question. I asked for a sweet vinegar cigar, and they were out. I believe the man I was familiar with had bought the last of that particular flavor. I still bought a cigar, but I can’t remember the flavor I ended up with. I used the clipper of the man I was familiar with to prepare the cigar, but I can’t remember lighting it. The last thing I remember is ending up outside the establishment, by myself, amongst a crowd. I felt a desire to be with the previously mentioned group, but I was not.
Dreams often reflect our subconscious thoughts, feelings, and experiences. In this dream, several themes and symbols can provide insight into its meaning:
Social Dynamics and Isolation: The setting of a busy establishment full of familiar faces yet feeling alone points to feelings of isolation or disconnect in social situations. You may have a desire to connect with others but feel that you are on the outside. The fact that you approached the group but did not receive a warm invitation suggests you may be grappling with insecurities about your social relationships or a sense that you don’t fully belong.
Cigars as Symbolism: Cigars can represent indulgence, celebration, or a certain lifestyle. Since you don’t smoke tobacco in waking life, this might indicate an exploration of new experiences or a desire to adopt a different persona. It could reflect curiosity or peer pressure in social situations—taking on behaviors or habits that feel foreign or uncomfortable in order to fit in.
Communication Struggles: The awkward conversation with the bartender might symbolize difficulties in communication or expressing yourself. This could reflect broader issues in your life where you feel misunderstood or struggle to connect with others.
The Flavor of Cigars: The mention of “sweet vinegar” could represent a mixture of pleasant and unpleasant experiences. It could symbolize that while you might search for enjoyable interactions or experiences, there are elements of discomfort or bitterness involved as well.
The Outdoors vs. the Establishment: Ending up outside the establishment can signify a feeling of being removed from the group or a transition from a social setting to a more solitary state. It suggests a contemplation of your place in social circles, perhaps feeling drawn to certain communities while also being aware of your separateness from them.
In summary, this dream seems to reflect a desire for connection and acceptance within social groups, alongside feelings of isolation and uncertainty about how to navigate them. The themes express a struggle between wanting to engage with others and feeling left out. Consider examining your social dynamics in waking life and how they make you feel, as well as potential fears or desires related to belonging and self-acceptance.